Thinking about user accounts

So far we just walk in and chat.  While this is ok it would be better if we all could have an account.  Why?  Because having an account opens the door to having features that only account holders have.  Do we have any such features as yet?  No, but then again, step one is to have accounts.  Everything else will follow.

Using 3rd Party Authentication

My current thought is to use a third party service that will authenticate users.  What does this mean?  Have you ever been to a site to buy something and they say create an account or login using your google account or login using your Facebook account?  When a site uses google or Facebook to authenticate they are effectively using third parties.

Let's look at some terminology here:
Authentication: The act of verifying you are who you say you are.
Authorization:  What are you allowed to do on this site.  Chat, be a mod, be a room owner etc.

Authentication handled by a third party is safer for us all.  I never get to see your passwords or your information,  For example if you authenticate against Facebook all I get is a yes or no from Facebook on whether your username and password you provided to Facebook are valid or not.  This way none of your passwords are ever stored on Deviantlives servers.  No one can hack in and peek and steal what is your private information.  Once a third party service returns a successful authentication by you, I can then say aha!!!  These are the chat names registered to you, these are the rooms you can chat in, you are a mod in the following rooms, and you own the following rooms.  See where I am going with this? :-)

This is also good for the site.  If any user indulges in illegal activities, its now easier (not easy) to track them.  I really hope this situation never arises.

More on this later.......

5 ways to kill your dreams

My Choice....

An interesting video, a remake of another but this time from a woman's perspective.  Yes, we all have a choice.  Use it.  Don't live in fear and and don't let another take this choice away from you.  Even the D/s lifestyle is about choices.  If not, its abuse not a lifestyle.  Think about it.  Make your choice. It's your choice.

her demons

Let us wrap our arms around you
Little girl
We know you're feeling alone again
Little girl
It feels like no one loves you
Little girl
But we do

We're the demons in your head
Little girl
We're the monsters under your bed
Little girl
We love you when no one else is around
Little girl
Let us hold you.

- Lithium Doll

A dog's life...

Always something different and interesting out there.  I have heard of furries before.  Seen many adopt that lifestyle or fantasy on Second Life.  This is something way more real.  Have a read: http://www.newsweek.com/secret-life-human-pups-meet-britains-hidden-community-men-who-roleplay-dogs-463033

How a misfit found her voice

"...don't listen to anyone who tells you to shut up or change your story..."


http://www.ted.com/talks/lidia_yuknavitch_how_a_misfit_found_her_voice?utm_campaign=social&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_content=talk&utm_term=humanities#t-620762

The First Blog is the Deepest

My introduction to the "lifestyle" was I suppose fairly ordinary in a very extraordinary  way.   I had been in a terrible marriage where I had neither control nor affection and after many years, I escaped and moved out of state where I met and became friends with My hairdresser.  We started talking about "stuff" back and forth and after some time, she told Me that she was a slave for her Husband...  How interesting I thought... I needed to go on a quest to find out what all that was all about, being naturally curious and all *S*

After knowing her a while *but not too terribly much longer* I started getting invites to dinner and evenings.  Well we played a little, nothing went too far a whole lot of suggestive conversation maybe kisses and gropes.  One day.. The Husband came into My office and informed Me that it was going to be his wife's birthday soon and she had mentioned to Him that what she wanted for her birthday was for Him to ask Me to come and help teach her how to submit.  Who was I to deny a friends birthday wishes.

When I arrived, she was making dinner we drank some wine smoked some weed ate talked and relaxed.  I don't really remember exactly how it started, but it came down to she was whimpering and trying to get outta being  punished by a riding crop.. I told her she was being silly and that I would teach her how a proper slave was to take punishment * I have no idea exactly what I was saying or doing but the next thing I knew I was bare assed up clenching on to the end of the coffee table just being beaten *it was magical* I was hooked... It was the most erotic thing ever.

Well this naughtiness went on of over the course of several months.. We got up to ALL kinds of really outlandish fun.. Sadly.. I ended up with a giant promotion at work and had to move.. It was only an hour away but as all good things have their time.. the time had come for that  delicious relationship to just fade into a wonderful memory.  I had become a submissive!!!

Well... That was enough to make Me know for sure that I was done with the "usual" fucky sucky usual sexy time... I needed more.. So.. being in a small town in a really visible job, I did what everyone else on the planet does... I went on line.. * Treasure trove* I met all KINDS of different people from ALL over the world.   Well what was astounding to Me... was that All the "Doms" I met.. none of them really "got" it.. there was always something missing .. there were those who thought a 46 minute spanking without any imagination was where it was.. For those of you who think it does.. it doesn't, but that's a different topic for a different day.

Well what can a girl to do??  Do it Herself that's what.  I decided that it was My civic duty to educate  "doms" in the proper training to be a real Dom.  Well that idea kinda snowballed and It ended up with Me quitting My job and going to live in Europe for a few months just to abuse a man slave * I kinda HAD to go do that*

That was 17 years ago now that I have been back from Europe I switched from sub to Domme out of sheer necessity and now I am wonderful with being what I truly am.  I have tried to switch back.. I have even tried to play switch.. Epic fail!!!  I am a Domme thru and thru and I wouldn't have it any other way!!!

More soon...

Best switches

XOXO